Getting Over Stage Fright

February 17, 2010

Someone recently emailed me, asking how to get past stage fright. I answered, but while I was writing it I though it was so relivant that I decided to ask if they minded if I share it with everyone. They agreed, so here it is! Enjoy!

The question went a little something like this…

Hey Ken,
I’ve been battling with shyness and stage fright for years. I love to sing, and want to share my talent with the world, but find it nearly impossible to get our in front of others and perform. What can I do to change that?
Thanks,
Anonymous
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My response…
Hey Anonymous, 
Getting past nerves and shyness is something that nearly every singer has to master, but it doesn’t have to be that hard. It’s all a matter of how you see it (as is most of life). 
You see, we choose thoughts of shyness just as we choose the thoughts that accompany that nervous feeling. The biggest difference between me and you isn’t the nervousness, but what we feed it mentally. Most beginning performers sit back and stress before they sing. They mentally go over all the things that could go wrong, they tell themselves they’re going to forget their words, and they just work themselves up.
…I do the opposite.
Before I go out on stage, I’m jumping up and down to get pumped up! I’m visualizing the performance going EXACTLY the way I want it to go, imagining the whole song going perfectly, and the audience responding with a thunderous applause. This may seem silly, but when you feed that nervous energy with positive thoughts like that, you generate excitement. When you feed that nervous energy with thoughts of fear and doubt, then performing is going to be about as fun as getting a cavity filled at the dentist.
I’d use the same trick to get over shyness. We choose thoughts of shyness (I know I did for years!!!). But, the easiest way to get past that is choosing to view ourselves differently. You are the only person who can change you, and the first step to any change is changing your thoughts. See yourself as an outgoing, talented singer whose on a mission to share your gift with the world! At first, it’ll be really hard, but it’ll get easier.
 
Try this exercise… Take 5 minutes before going to bed each night to close your eyes and see yourself ENJOYING performing in front of a crowd of people. See these mind movies as vividly as possible, really giving them detail. The reason this will help is that it’ll give you performance experience, even though you didn’t have to physically live it. To your brain and subconscious mind, it’s all the same. I know this exercise may sound a little weird, and it will take some commitment, but if you do this, I promise you that singing in front of others will get easier. 
I genuinely hope that this helps and that you try these exercises. Do them for at least ninety days and you’ll be shocked at the difference you’ll see. Alrighty, well I need to get back on my newest project. Thanks for writing and I hope you have a wonderful rest of the week!
Happy Singing,
Ken

Singer’s Be Warned!!!

October 22, 2009

Whether you’re living the life of a performer or looking into it, there is one personality trait that you MUST have in order to be a professional singer. You have to be able to deal with rejection, and deal with it often.

I’ve seen it countless times, both in friends and students. They’ll come to me all excited because they’ve finally muster up the courage to follow their dream of becoming a professional singer/performer. Judging by the look on their face, they’re ready to take on the world.

But all too often, a month or two later there excitement turns into doubt after a series of carefully prepared auditions that resulted in zero calls. Then, they start questioning what they really want. They start wondering whether or not their goal is even possible.

Now don’t get me wrong, not everyone is cut out for the stage. But, if you’re talented and willing to learn, don’t count yourself out too quickly because everyone who’s ever made it has had to deal with rejection, and probably a whole lot more than you have.

I can just hear some people responding, “But you don’t get it Ken! I’ve been trying so hard and I just keep failing!”

The truth is everyone who does something extraordinary fails, and they FAIL OFTEN. Thomas Jefferson failed thousands of times before creating a light bulb. The Beatles, arguably the biggest band the world has ever known, was refused a record contract by a thick headed producer who thought the rock & roll era was over. Heck, even my college professor, an amazingly talented operatic tenor, said for every 20 auditions he does, he gets hired for one.

The point is we all fail. And, we all fail regularly. In order to learn how to succeed, we have to be willing to continue to move forward, learn from our failures, and use that new knowledge to get ahead. If you do this, failure isn’t failure at all, but an opportunity to learn. When you make this mental shift, it’s impossible to fail unless you give up!

So, keep moving forward and I wish you all the best and as always, Happy Singing!

~ Ken

I started this blog speaking mostly on vocal technique, which I do think is paramount in creating a great singing voice. However, the BIGGEST, most important factor of improving your singing voice has nothing to do with vocal technique at all. It has to do with connecting with your audience. So, how do we do that? First, we have to understand the following phrase:

“Music is Emotion You Can Hear”

Each song you sing has a dominate emotion, and some songs touch on several emotions. It’s these emotions that make the piece the wonderful work that it is. Without that emotion tied to it, the song quickly becomes boring and fades out of our minds. This is why certain songs really touch you, even though you may not know why. This is why certain singers, though they may lack real talent (or even the ability to hit all their notes accurately) can still get a great response from the audience. People can feel what they’re singing, and that’s what counts most!

All that being said, right now you’re probably thinking, “So Ken, how can I make this happen?!?”

To Improve Your Singing Voice, You Must Connect with the Song, then Connect with Your Audience.

Many singers focus their practice time on learning the right words, accurately singing the melody, and making sure that they can nail that high note. These are all important things, but the reality is that doing this is only the first, most basic step of preparing a song.

To really have a kick butt performance, you’ve got to be able to sing with genuine emotion, sharing with others just how you feel, causing them to feel it too.

Have you ever noticed the person with the most dominate emotion in a room can bring everyone up or down with them? This is true of singers too, and let me tell you, that mic in your hand automatically makes you the dominate person in the room.

So think about it… what emotion are you contagiously sharing with others? Is it fear and discomfort? Is is excitement? Sadness? Passion? Joy? All you have to do is check in with your own feelings at the time and odds are this is how you’re making others feel. If you don’t believe me, do some study in psychology. You’ll find this can be scientifically backed up.

So what can we do to help this? First off, you have to get personally involved in the message of your song. Each song tells a story, and that story makes people feel a certain way. You may not be able to relate with the exact story of the song, but odds are you can connect with the emotion through some other experience in your life, so use it! Genuinely feeling the emotion of a piece will automatically help you express it better, helping you keep your  audience focused on you. 

Now, to take that even one step further, if the main emotion of your piece is sadness but you’ve got a smile on your face, your shoulders are confidently back and you’re bouncing around like Tigger, this is probably not going to be overly convincing to your audience because lets face it, in their eyes, you’re living a lie. The opposite is true as well (ie – the song is happy, but you look scared out of your mind).

So the way you present yourself has a tremendous effect on how others view your performance. This part is really hard for people at first because singing in front of a crowd can be really nerve racking, but I promise if you keep at it, refusing to give up, you’ll master it!

Long story short, in order to best improve your singing voice, you’ve got to make the emotions of your song come to life! This emotion should be made obvious through the words you say, how you say them and your body language. Master this art and every audience you get in front of will be putty in your hands.

I’m Ken Taylor, and I hope this singing tip helps you take your voice and performance to the next level!

Happy Singing!